Intimacy Coordinator

Vancouver, BC

As an Intimacy Coordinator, I collaborate in the telling of onscreen stories involving nudity, sexuality, and intimacy that are authentic, safe, and consent driven.

Testimonials

 

“Working with Tolmie was such an enlightening and positive experience. Her thoughtful and thorough approach made the actors more comfortable, and taught me about different approaches to directing intimate scenes, which in turn made me a better director.

I would work with Tolmie again in a heartbeat.”

Gloria Mercer, Director, Producer at See Horse Films

“Tolmie is beyond wonderful! From prep through wrap she created an environment where everyone felt safe, heard and supported. I cannot thank her enough for collaborating on the commercial. She streamlined the entire process; ensuring everyone was informed about what would happen ‘on the day’. The team presented countless questions to Tolmie and her depth of knowledge in every facet of intimacy coordination was incredibly reassuring. I leaned on her to help choreograph actor movement and finesse performance, liaise with cast/other departments and check in with the team l. I’m so thankful for Tolmie’s expertise - she made my job as director so much better!”

Rachel Rose, Director

 

“I had the great pleasure working with Tolmie in an recent independent project. Tolmie has a real talent for creating a safe and comfortable environment, which allows artists to develop their talents and creativity. Her work ethos is wonderful! She listens carefully to any request and makes sure everyone feels confident when walking into an intimate scene. I would recommend Tolmie to anyone who would like to get the best performance out of their artists in emotional and intimate scenes. She’s a real powerhouse with a heart of gold!”

Bianca Foscht, Actor

“Working with Tolmie was my first experience working with an intimacy coordinator, and it was a terrific experience. Tolmie helped the actors and me openly discuss all the intimate scenes we were filming and relate the actions back to the characters and script. She worked with us to develop a specific choreography that ensured everyone felt safe and comfortable while still telling a challenging, intimate story. Tolmie helped alleviate a lot of the stress for everyone involved, and I would love to work with her again.”

— Patrycja Mila Kamska, Director

“In the past, as an actor, I've often felt that my suggestions and preferences for an intimate scene are the last to be heard and the lowest priority, especially when time is of the essence. Yet when I worked with Tolmie, my scenes finally felt like a true collaboration! She and I did an assessment of the scene beforehand so I knew what to expect and I could mentally and creatively prepare. When we got to set, I noticed she didn't distract from what was happening, but I very much felt her supportive presence. Then we debriefed afterwards and I was able to integrate things in a new way that really helped me grow professionally and artistically. I've worked with other intimacy coordinators since then, but Tolmie stood out as such a calming, deeply intelligent, compassionate presence on that project.”

Kaylah Zander, Actor

What I Do

As an Intimacy Coordinator, I help bring creative visions to the screen in an authentic, safe, and consent-driven way. I work with actors to identify personal and physical boundaries and assist with choreography and movement. As an IC on set, I promote and uphold professional standards for simulated sex, nudity, and intimacy to ensure the safety of all cast and crew. I enhance efficiency on the day, by front loading communication so that everyone comes to set with boundaries established and a clear understanding of the context and director’s vision.

I excel at navigating interpersonal dynamics, recognizing trauma responses, and holding space.

It’s my pleasure to facilitate the creation of safe spaces so actors and directors know the bounds in which they can create, explore, and play!

On set of Smoke Eater with Actor Kaylah Zander.

Photo by Veronica Bonderud.